| Do you REALLY know what you're in for when you | | | | DISCUSS them with your partner. |
| enter a second marriage? Most people don't. | | | | Good FEELINGS are NOT proof you've found a good |
| Common sense might tell us that second marriages | | | | match. Now I don't mean to "burst your bubble", but |
| have a higher success rate because we've made our | | | | if you ONLY get married because of your feelings for |
| mistakes and moved on...but unfortunately, this is just | | | | each other, you're setting yourself up for failure. |
| not the case. | | | | 4. Been There, Done That |
| You're about to discover the top 5 reasons why | | | | It's easier to get a divorce in a second marriage |
| second marriages fail. Take this opportunity to learn | | | | because there's no fear of the unknown like there |
| from others' mistakes to make certain your second | | | | was when you contemplated divorce in your first |
| marriage is the best one yet. | | | | marriage. People in a second marriage are far LESS |
| 1. PART 1: Let the Tug of War Begin (Please | | | | willing to forgive and forget their spouse's little |
| substitute male/female where appropriate.) | | | | imperfections, yet they're MORE willing to call it quits |
| The competition begins when a woman enters her | | | | because they've been through divorce before. |
| second marriage, but her new husband is confused | | | | But at no point in time do they ever stop and look at |
| about his role in the marriage in relation to her | | | | themselves and the part that THEY played in the |
| children. He wants his new wife to make HIM the | | | | failure of their last marriage- they just move on in |
| priority and the children want their mom to make | | | | their quest for Mr. or Mrs. Right instead of trying to |
| THEM the priority. | | | | improve their current relationship. |
| This "tug of war" creates contempt and resentment | | | | 5. Which is it; YOUR Money, MY Money or OUR |
| leaving the woman in the middle feeling like she has | | | | Money? |
| to "choose a side". This is one of the biggest factors | | | | Whether you like it or not, MONEY plays a big part in |
| that puts strain on a second marriage. But the sad | | | | every marriage. But what most money problems |
| fact is; this is only HALF the battle in the "tug of | | | | really boil down to is...TRUST. When couples get |
| war" that leads to a second divorce... | | | | married, they're faced with the question of combined |
| 2. PART 2: War of the Wives | | | | or separate income. |
| The next part of the "tug of war" is when one | | | | When women are faced with husbands who insist on |
| spouse tries to get more of her ex husband's money. | | | | separate incomes, they feel insecure, but more |
| Since she resents her ex, she feels she's entitled to | | | | importantly, they begin to sense distrust. And after |
| his money because of "what he put her through". | | | | all, what she's looking for is financial and emotional |
| At the other end of the 'rope' is this man's current | | | | security. |
| wife. She doesn't feel the other woman deserves | | | | So when her husband insists on "your money" and |
| any of his money because he has a new life | | | | "my money", she sees it as insinuating that she |
| now...with a new wife. She feels that the | | | | cannot be trusted with his finances. Since she's not |
| court-ordered money is more than enough and the | | | | sure whether her husband is out to protect HER or |
| ex wife is now being greedy. | | | | protect himself FROM her, this trust issue will |
| 3. The Quest for Mr. / Mrs. Right | | | | ALWAYS be a strain on the second marriage unless |
| This is another big reason why second marriages fail. | | | | it is openly discussed. |
| Going into a second marriage without realizing why | | | | Now that you know the top 5 reasons why second |
| the first one failed is like NASA building a new rocket | | | | marriages fail you can go into your second marriage |
| before finding out why the last one exploded. | | | | completely aware of the pitfalls that blind-side 60% |
| Instead of focusing on what REALLY went wrong in | | | | of those who remarry for the second time. The best |
| their last marriage, people often place blame solely on | | | | advice I can give you is get everything out in the |
| their ex husband or wife. They end up believing that | | | | open before you make a commitment. |
| the key to a happy marriage is simply finding the | | | | It may not be very 'romantic' to discuss your beliefs |
| right partner. | | | | and values about issues like money and children, but |
| If you've thought this way before, I've got news for | | | | if you want to make your second marriage your last |
| you....there is no "right partner." There never will be. | | | | - it's absolutely CRITICAL you discover any |
| The "key" is finding someone who has values similar | | | | drawbacks that could potentially destroy your new |
| to yours. And you won't know this unless you | | | | marriage. |